tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post6194818031081208556..comments2023-08-08T18:29:38.704+08:00Comments on Homeschool @ SG: Homeschool @ sghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13292068554504662142noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-25400040958938194082011-07-17T19:37:08.305+08:002011-07-17T19:37:08.305+08:00Justme: hahahaha! you're so witty! Oh sigh! I ...Justme: hahahaha! you're so witty! Oh sigh! I hope he wouldn't grow up and look back only to remember mummy yelling at him constantly! You are definately right when you say i need ME TIME. I DO SO BADLY! The girl is driving me quite insane and that's why im less tolerance of N's antics which otherwise can be quite amusing. <br /><br />*breathing breathing*Homeschool @ sghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292068554504662142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-44774202413065907192011-07-16T14:00:43.139+08:002011-07-16T14:00:43.139+08:00is breathing the best advice you getting these day...is breathing the best advice you getting these days? relax was probably the best advice i got when i was trying to get pregnant! lol *with sarcasm*<br /><br />i think, hun, you need to have your own ME-TIME too.. just to get away from it all. it's hard, i know when you have 2 kids right now. I only have ME-TIME on Sat from 9am to 11am and that's my only ME-TIME so that realy recharges me and gives me the small break i need. I realised that after I really shouted at T when I screamed, GO TO F*K TO BED (totally inspired by the book!). <br /><br />And u are not a bad mother. This is your blog and your space to talk whatever you wish. So, do not feel bad cuz I know you love your son very much. You are human after all.<br /><br />N is just such a beautiful bright boy who also wants and craves for your attention. And I think I know where he is coming from. My father remarried and has another son from 2nd wife when I was around N's age and I did everything to get his attention and never did. Reflecting back, I know he had his hands full but back then, new marriage, new child, but I couldn't understand..how would you expect a 4 year old girl to understand the dynamics of change?however, sometimes, a little bit of me wished he could still shower me with a little more attention when I needed some but I couldn't address my feelings then.<br /><br />So, yeah, breathe baby, breathe..and do the best you can.. and oh yeah, try to relax..:)<br /><br />peace to ya, SISTA!<br /><br />xoxo.Just Me.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12940399833566474215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-52441281055177552212011-07-16T00:17:22.969+08:002011-07-16T00:17:22.969+08:00Aw, yeah. It's easy to forget that it's no...Aw, yeah. It's easy to forget that it's not just the older sibling(s) who might miss mom, but the other way around, too! You don't get to just be with your sweet boy as much these days. Maybe you could *both* use a little more connection time?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-84190597332505465132011-07-15T13:42:34.045+08:002011-07-15T13:42:34.045+08:00keep breathing- that's probably the best advic...keep breathing- that's probably the best advice i've heard so far! :) honestly, i am not sure if it started during or before pregnancy. But you could be right, it may just he's way of getting my attention. Im trying to get one on one time with him...wherever i can. I miss him so much... :( sigh!Homeschool @ sghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292068554504662142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-9372953334042223272011-07-15T02:04:22.864+08:002011-07-15T02:04:22.864+08:00Glad to hear that your son shows no signs of being...Glad to hear that your son shows no signs of being jealous of the little sister. That is truly great! And a blessing for you all.<br /><br />You say he was acting in this manner "way before the baby was out" but was it more so *after* you got pregnant? The reason I ask is because the older sibling often begins this sort of more intense activity ahead of the birth, but still after the perception of mom being less available. It may have nothing to do with the sister, and still everything to do with needing more of you.<br /><br />In any case, I think, if you can manage it, some one on one time with him, where you give yourself completely over to his agenda, and stay focused on nurturing your relationship with him (through play, and snuggling, etc.) could really help you both. <br /><br />Also, with respect to your tolerance, *nooooooo kidding*, right? It can really change our whole parenting game when we are feeling worn down, wound up, and/or just "off". Even though it's perhaps harder to address, I think it's a powerful recognition on your part that your son is just being a kid, and your tolerance (or lack thereof) is in need of being addressed. <br /><br />So how do you get more tolerant? What helps you with that?<br /><br />Be well, power-mama, and keep breathing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-20010078909520378982011-07-14T10:08:57.264+08:002011-07-14T10:08:57.264+08:00Hi! Thanks for the insight! Would you believe my s...Hi! Thanks for the insight! Would you believe my son published this post? It's actually an unfinished post! I've some more points to add! I was going to say it's not he's way of getting my attention because he's been doing this way before the baby was out. It's just that now I've so much on my plate, I've become less tolerant of his behaviour. Plus he's accepting his sister well, no signs of jealousy...yet.Homeschool @ sghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292068554504662142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37667544722723930.post-54083324236434545412011-07-14T01:50:44.265+08:002011-07-14T01:50:44.265+08:00Sounds like you're having such a hard time! So...Sounds like you're having such a hard time! Sorry to hear that. It can be so hard when things aren't going the way you would prefer, and even worse, when they seem *stuck* that way.<br /><br />From an outside (and "professional") perspective, I'd say it sounds like your boy is missing having you to himself. He keeps doing things, even things you really don't like, just so that he can get direct, focused, exclusive interaction with you. <br /><br />If it were me, I'd keep talking to him about the various issues (and trying to find a calm way to do it), AND see if you can give him some personal time with just the two of you -- even if it's just little bits here and there. That way he has the opportunity to have you to himself without having to do something you don't like first.<br /><br />Hope things smooth out for you! Be well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com